Happy Valentines Day everyone!!
Today is the day nationally known for showing love and affection. Known as the day when romanticism is a must. The truth is, do we really need Valentines day to pursue our partner? Should Valentines Day be the one day out of the year to reassure your husband how crazy in love you really are? My answer is NO! Sure-Valentines day is a fun holiday filled with love, friendship and lots of chocolates. The question is why should we make it the only day out of the year for a date night, sweet words and a little flirting.
Before I continue. I would like to make clear that I am no expert in marriage nor do I have the perfect marriage. One thing I do know is that I've learned a lot throughout my years of commitment with my husband. While my husband and I have only been married for a year and 1 month, we have been in a relationship with each other for nearly 8 years(in June). Throughout the years my husband and I have seen many seasons in our relationship. Going from a teenage crush to high school sweethearts, girlfriend and boyfriend to moving in together, common law marriage, having kids, Army and officially married. We have seen and been through it all. Our early relationship was a relationship that wasn't quite accepted for one reason or another. We were stereotyped and judged like most young couples today. Yes our relationship was a bit premature, and no I never thought as an early teenager that my husband would one day be my "HUSBAND". We have had many ups and downs, learned and relearned how to maintain our relationship. As life evolves so does your relationship. For example when I look back to our high school, dating days I often wonder was that really us? Pursuing each other came so easy, our love was spontaneous and racy. There would be silly phone calls, beautiful love notes, long walks, romantic gifts and the best of all lots of talking. All of this is true during the early stages in a relationship. As the years go by and the relationship progresses from one stage to another things begin to change.
Life happens and you get caught up in the mix. Things start to become routine. The desire to pursue your husband begins to decrease, and you tend to forget about your husbands need for constant reassurance. There is often a misconception that just because he's married to you "he is yours," therefore I don't need to try and keep the fire going. Reality is, there is nothing more catastrophic to a healthy, loving marriage than one spouse failing to pursue the other. Even though your husband might not make a big deal about "pursuit" it doesn't mean he doesn't want it. In fact he seeks it on a daily basis.
What exactly do you mean by pursuing him, Nancy? When I say pursuit I mean go after him, flirt, joke around. Show affection, support, reassurance and get physical. Make it a habit to repeat how much you love him. Let your husband know you appreciate his hard work. Tell him he looks handsome, encourage him in all ways possible. Tell him hes a good dad. Take the time to ask him about his day. Listen to what he has to say and make him feel like he's your superhero! Your husband shouldn't have to remember last years Valentines day card to make him feel loved. Assure him that he's the man your body desires and don't be ashamed of making yourself physically accessible to him. Be a woman who puts out, after all he's your husband! Doing simple tasks like these shouldn't be a hassle. Love for your husband comes natural so why not display affection and convince him that you are passionate about him yesterday, today, tomorrow, and years to come!! Your husband will be delighted to know he is cherished and pursued by his loving wife.
: Valentines Day Selfies
XO, Nancy!
